Does your anger easily overtake you?
With every family comes its own set of problems that result in anger.
Anger in the family surfaces in three ways: as a temperament, as a result of stress from an outside source, and as a way to gain power.
I’ll start off by advising you to not use anger as power. Kids use it to get what they want, and you do it (as a parent) to get your kids to do what you want.
This only works in the short-term, but using anger as power has negative, long-term consequences.
Now, how do you manage anger in the family so that it doesn’t affect other members, like your kids?
There are 4 ways to do this…
- Take personal responsibility for it. Don’t blame others for your anger.
- Find safe and healthy ways to vent your anger:
Give yourself more time to get home so that you don’t get so upset when you get home and take it out on other members in your family.
Ask for a few moments alone so that you get over your anger without taking it out on your kids
Find alternative outlets for your anger, such as in exercise or sports
- Be aware of how you talk to yourself. You may be causing your own problems.
- Increase your social support network.
Trying the four tips above will help you control the anger in your family. Your kids will learn how to deal with anger by remembering how you deal with it, so it’s time to learn how to deal with it correctly.
Does anger frequently surface in your family? Do you use any of the tips above? Which one do you believe works the best?
Anger Tools For Families [AngerManagementGroups.com]
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