Parents are talking about how they deal with their pre-teens' anger.
Most angry pre-teens don’t become angry just because it’s the cool things to do. Anger isn’t like alcohol or drugs – it’s not something they can just pick up because they feel pressured or because they have nothing better to do.
Pre-teen anger, oftentimes, stems from earlier childhood troubles.
According to HandinHandParenting.org:
It’s those long-stored feelings that makes for an angry teen: the young person has been trying to hold feelings at bay for a long time. Finding no one who knew how to listen to [his or her] feelings a child feels isolated and frightened.
Here are 3 main things that you can do, as a parent, to help your angry pre-teen…
- Find him or her a counselor.
- Spend some one-on-one time with him or her…away from the home in a different environment.
- Move closer and keep listening, even if you have to stop him or her from closing the door on you.
DON’T ask your child to stop being upset. Your pre-teen is trying to tell you something through his or her anger, and telling him or her to being angry won’t help the situation.
DO remind yourself that pre-teen anger is a common thing in many families, and that it’s not necessarily your fault.
How do you deal with your angry pre-teen?
How Can I Help My Angry Pre-Teen? [HandInHandParenting]
