Do the things you say build up your kids or bring them down?
There are plenty of things NOT to say to your kids…
Things that hurt their feelings, make them upset, and cause them to act out in ways that you don’t like.
But today we’ve got a great list of things to say to your kids that will help them be more respectful, feel appreciated, and even prevent bad behavior.
Families that homeschool their kids are often familiar with the 10 phrases you’re about to learn because they’ve put a lot of thought into making sure that their kids are developing their own sense of self.
But that desire certainly isn’t shared only by homeschooling parents.
That’s why I’m bringing this list to you today…
The list has 10 things that, as you start saying them more with your kids, you’ll start noticing more connection between you and your kids, and your kids will be happier and more polite as well.
Here are 2 of my favorites from the list:
2. Tell me more.
Words like these show your child that you are listening and that you would like to hear more about what’s on her mind. “Tell me more” encourages conversation without passing judgment or giving immediate advice, two responses that discourage further communication from your child.
I love this one because it’s about giving full attention to your child and taking the time to listen. So often, kids are cut short because mom or dad is busy doing something else.
But when you say, “Tell me more,” that’s an indication that you’re fully present with your child and ready to listen and be engaged.
Another favorite:
4. How can I help?
Let your child know you are willing and available to help her accomplish a particular task that may be difficult for her to manage on her own. You might say: “I think you can read that story by yourself now. Let me know if you need help with a new word.” As your child takes on projects in school, encourage her to think of specific steps that are necessary to complete a project. You both can decide which tasks your child can handle on her own and which ones she’ll need help with.
This question, “How can I help?” is so versatile.
Yes, you can use it like the passage above suggests, but you can also use it during family squabbles or sibling rivalry.
One of your kids may be complaining about another child and instead of rushing in to solve it, you can simply ask one or both of them, “How can I help?”
In this way, you aren’t assuming that they need help, but you’re offering it in case they require some assistance.
Often times, after being asked that question, they’ll realize that they don’t need any help or they figure out how to solve it on their own.
Check out the rest of the 10 phrases that will make being a parent feel easier in the full article below.
Your Turn: Do you have a favorite phrase you use with your kids that helps you stay connected to them? Tell us what you like to say to your kids in the comments section.
The 10 Magic Homeschool Phrases [Home School Network]
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When I’m wrong about something, or maybe yelled a little too loud. I tell them I’m sorry.