According to family therapist, Michael Ungar, the key to dealing with ungrateful teens is to “require them to make meaningful, and genuine contributions to the family, and set consequences if they don’t.”
Not only will this approach help your house run more smoothly, but it’ll also be demonstrating to your teen how to be successful in society – you do something for me and I’ll do something for you.
It’s all about working together and helping your teen understand that he has a vital role in the family.
He suggests putting your teen in charge of making one family meal a week – and not bailing them out if they’re unprepared. Or telling your son that you’ll take him where he wants to go, if he walks the family dog.
He also shares a great idea for helping your teens feel valued…
Instead of continuing to treat your teens like you did when they were young kids and telling them to pull up their pants, do their homework, etc. right when they walk in the door from school…
Try this instead…
Tell them about your day. Ask for advice. Ask them to fix the computer or to make you a cup of tea. Get them involved in making decisions about the next family vacation.
Asking your teen for advice about something that happened with a friend, or work situation is a great way to let your teen know that you value them and see them as a member of the family with something important to contribute…instead of treating them like they’re dependent on you and can’t think for themselves.
More Parenting Advice: What do you think of these ideas for dealing with ungrateful teens? How have you handled ungrateful teens in your home?
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