For many of you, one child is more than enough. One child can take up all your time… how do you make room for two children? Not only would you have to manage your finances better for two children, you’d also have to worry about whether they get along with each other.
I’m very fortunate to be close to my sisters. There are a couple of reasons for this, which Christine Carter, Ph.D., also mentions in her article here…
According to Dr. Carter, there are 5 main ways you can do for your kids so that they can build a solid foundation for strong sibling relationships.
The most important tip is to “think twice before intervening during a conflict.” Here’s why…
Research shows that preschool-aged kids benefit from more parental guidance during conflicts. Once kids reach adolescence, however, it is best to let kids work arguments out themselves.
That’s exactly how my sisters and I got so close. It was very important to us that our parents didn’t intervene, because we needed to work things out on our own. That’s how we learned how to solve our own problems. We learned what worked and what didn’t work when it comes to solving the problem. I think that’s something experience will teach.
So as parents, sometimes it’s necessary to stay out of the problem. You have good intentions, but your teens need to learn how to deal with and take care of their own problems.
Are your kids have a close sibling connection to each other? How did that happen? Was it something you did, or did they learn to be close on their own?
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