Moms and Dads are learning how to respond to their kids' tantrums.
Once in a while it may seem as if something has taken over your toddler
One second everything seems fine, and then, out of nowhere, the screaming and crying and stomping begin.
Toddler tantrums are perfectly normal. When they are between the ages of 1 and 3, you can pretty much expect an outcry every now and then.
Experts agree that most tantrums are a result of some kind of built-up tension and frustration.
It’s a part of their growth. As toddlers begin to express emotions and recognize what makes them tick, tantrums are way to communicate this to their parents.
The secret is to remain calm.
You are the adult, and so you have the control.
In order to control the tantrum, you must first control yourself. Try to understand where the frustration is coming from and begin from there.
Here is what some of the experts at Disney’s Family Parenting say about toddlers and tantrums:
Sears and Sears suggest the first step in handling a tantrum is learning what sets it off. Keep a tantrum diary. Watch for pre-tantrum signs.
You’ll be like a detective watching for clues. Look out Columbo!
Dr. Harvey Karp’s “containment” strategies involve echoing the child’s feelings, acknowledging verbally what he or she is saying: “You’re so mad! You’re so mad! You don’t like it!” Then remove the audience – namely yourself – so your toddler has a chance to take a time-out and calm down on his own.
Have you tried either of those two suggestions?
What are the best ways you’ve found to deal with toddler tantrums? Share your tips in the comments.
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There is so much conflicting information on this topic, thank you for bringing it up. I refer clients to a book called “Helping Young Children Flourish” by Aletha Soulter, Ph.D., “…few, if any books recognize the positive, healing nature of genuine tantrums, which are vital in helping children deal with stress.” Unfortunately, many parents are focused on how to get their child to stop the tantrum instead of helping them work through it to completion – which speaks more to a parent’s embarrassment or impatience, than what is best for the child. Great topic for discussion.