Do you let your daughter have boys in her room?
I bet it seems like just yesterday that your teenage daughter was in diapers, crawling on the floor saying things you can’t make out.
If you didn’t want her doing something, like crawl behind the couch or chew on a toy, easy: pick her up and put her somewhere else or take the toy away from her.
Then all of a sudden your baby became a teenager, and parenting got much more difficult. You find it hard to control what your child does, like who she hangs out with at school, who she dates…
…and what she does with her boyfriend, even in the home.
It’s a scary thought. So much can happen behind closed doors. You wonder what the two are doing–if they’re having sex.
Susan Spencer from TodaysParent.com suggests the open-door policy. Here’s how it works…
You’re still the parent and it’s still your house so you get to make and enforce the rules.
If a boy comes over, let your daughter know that as long as she has the door open, you won’t bother them. Be sure to let her know exactly why you’re enforcing the open-door policy.
Tell your daughter that it’s not just sex that she’s worried about. Tell her that she needs to set good examples for the younger siblings (if you have younger children), too.
To see what experts have to say about the open-door policy, read Spicer’s full article.
What do you do? How do you deal with your daughter having boys in her room? Do you think the open-door policy is a good idea? Share your opinions as a comment below–you could be helping other confused and worried parients.
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our daughter is 14 and we have an open door policy with her.she is allowed to have a boy over in her room as long as the door is open and we can hea rand see whats going on.she is a bedwetter and has strict instructions that she is not to let a boy know that she is a bedwetter and that she wears a diaper and rubber pants to bed a night.we feel that this information would cause her embarrassment and possibly cause the boy to force himself on her.most of her girlfriends accept her problem and do not reveal her secret.